The healing process after being hurt by someone or something is a hard process and unrealistic expectations by yourselves or accepting someone else’s expectations can affect your healing process leaving you feeling defeated.
Have you ever had someone say, ”get over it” or ”are you still hurt by that.”
Easier said than done, I would say, right?
A few years ago, I sprained my ankle. I was on my way to work, walking through the same path I took everyday when my foot rolled.
I don’t know if that ever happened to you before…but it hurts.
I fell to the ground and heard something pop in my leg.
Thankfully, I was able to get up and I limped myself to the office.
Throughout the day, I put ice on it and kept it up.
I’m fine, I ensured myself.
Well, by evening time my ankle had doubled in size.
I will be honest, I don’t like going to the doctors so I self-diagnosed my ankle.
Based on my situation…it had to be a sprain because I was able to walk on it. So there was no need for me to see a doctor.
After struggling for a few months with my ankle I gave in and went to see a physio therapist.
”Why didn’t you go see a doctor?” He asked. So I explained my theory to him.
Well thank God it was only a sprain and not fractured, but the therapist gave me the breakdown of the affects from not seeing the doctor right away.
The first one, I caused more damage to the ankle and the other supporting muscles by being on it, when I should have been resting.
The second, I prolonged the healing process.
Then, I was told it will take a while to be healed completely and it might not be the same.
Now it has now been many years and my ankle is definitely not the same.
What I’ve come to realize, our emotional healing is like our physically healing.
It takes time.
But not only time, but also effort. Kinda like forgiveness.
Related: How I Forgave The Unforgiveable
You see, I had to do special exercises to get my ankle and supporting muscles to get back the strength it once had.
Emotional hurt also requires exercises. You can’t just leave it and think it’s going to get better on it’s own.
What I have you today is:
5 Things NOT To Do When You Are Wanting To Be Healed
NUMBER 1 – Have High Expectations
We can be so hard on ourselves. Healing Takes Time
Healing a paper cut vs a broken bone has a different healing period. A paper cut can take a day or two while a broken bone, will take you much longer time.
Not only does healing depend on what was hurt, but also healing depends person to person.
Going into surgery you are told roughly how long it will take you to heal, but the doctor will always say approximately because not everyone’s body is the same. Your healing might take longer than others.
Don’t put high expectations on the healing time. I didn’t think rolling my foot was going to take months to heal, but it did.
NUMBER 2 – Shutting Off Your Family And Friends
Don’t be like me and self diagnose your situation. If I had seen a doctor earlier, I would have avoided further damage.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to people if you need support during the healing process. God will sometimes use someone else to speak into your life to help you heal.
NUMBER 3 – Think You Are Being Silly
Your Feelings Are Valid
While I ignored my ankle my other leg was getting affected. I had shifted my weight from one leg to the other as I was limping around.
I didn’t think the situation with my ankle was a big deal, but it was to the point that the other leg was being affected.
Your feeling of hurt are valid. Don’t be feel ashamed of them. Don’t cover it up and don’t belittle them.
NUMBER 4 – Compare Yourself To Others
We tend to compare ourselves to other people way too much. Your healing process will not look the same as someone else that has the same situation because we are all different.
God will bring you through your healing process, which is for you and catered to you. He knows what you need, when you need it, and how much is too much at a time.
Don’t compare yourself to others. This will only make you feel defeated.
NUMBER 5 – Expect Things To Go Back To Normal
One thing I learned in my healing process of my ankle, some things will never be the same.
My ankle has never been the same. But that’s not always a bad thing. Change can be good.
For my ankle, I want to say, not so much, but God reminds me that in my weakness His power is strong.
In our healing, we will depend on God more.
There you have it, 5 things that will hinder your healing process. Don’t forget that every situation is different resulting in different outcomes. Take your time to reflect on your feelings and bring them to God.
Don’t ever feel like your feelings are not valid. They are and so are you. God will help you through this and through this you are building spiritual muscles.
I pray this has helped you today. If so, leave a comment below.
Take care and God bless.
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